by marciasherrill
26. January 2009 19:52
Now, we have all recognized that moment when we have utterly exhausted our friends patience and good nature as well as most of their good linens with our divorce stories. Some friends are battle scarred veterans of the Divorce Wars with the patience of former leper-colony staff. But there invariably comes a moment when you recognize the glazed eyes and battle fatigue and relent. But we all have that one friend who cannot get over the divorce and these women and men are the ones who invariably DID NOT want the divorce and it puts you in mind of a college break-up but with Children sick with flu and mortgages to be aid so it is SERIOUS but it can take on an form of aggressive talk-therapy that can go on literally for hours. And you love these people. What to do when he/she has been left-cruelly-perhaps even nakedly on the side of a country culvert. Listen for the first few MONTHS (Yes I said months-it is not a fast-healing ailment) but then for your health and theirs (remember their are practitioners of psychology and psychiatry that NEED clients) you have to lay down the law and that means a Stop Watch with the most determined divorcee. 15 minutes a day is plenty to catch up on the latest grievance and they are almost always valid. No Child Support. Dishy new boy or girlfriend. Fancy vacation for the kids while you work those 3 jobs that equal your college lifestyle when you were on scholarship and cocktail waitressing at the purty Ramada Inn. Yes, you want to be sympathetic but you also want your friend to heal and there are children that need raising. Think of yourself as the Divorce Whisperer.
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