Dialing D For Divorce

This weekend I was a bit lax in my blogging because I was getting cauliflower ear speaking with a number of folks who contacted me off the site. From Des Moines to Manhattan, Mothers and sons, I hope I helped but I am more than ever convinced that this is a plague largely whipped into a a frenzy by the matrimonial courts or family courts (if ever an expression was less apropos). I know from my divorce that Falujah is less combustible than the courtroom and the militia more friendly. I have met many divorcees who were dealt cruel blows from my JUDGE- ( please wait just a minute while I throw another artfully thrown dart at her withering visage on my dartboard). Yes, she has a bit of a scorched-earth policy here in New York-seems to be quite  fan of the handsome and abjectly sad and forlorn looking husband and turns a blind eye and deaf ear on all entreaties vis a vis money. She has sent each and every stay-at-home mom back to work. (Women who supported their husbands through school and early careers and have been out of the workforce for decades-her favorite rejoinder-GET A JOB. "

  Has cruelly ignored  all EVIDENCE of non-payment of Child Support or Interim Maintenance. When my lawyer said that my EX had refused to pay a Doctors bill while clenching the bill in his sweaty hands (oh,  yes even the lawyers are frightened-a courthouse sport enjoyed by some ) she screeched in her special crone-ish, harpy-ish style "he is a perfect Father." Evidently not when it came to that swimmers ear emergency room visit. And when my lawyer carefully explained that YES my client did give her husband the bill-in fact she has been filling out HOME expense reports for decades she barely looked up before retorting...as if THIS had anything to do with the issue at hand "she has money." She was the one who said that my salary of TAKE HOME $261.00 a week was not enough and gave me a RAISE of $250. I was livin' large! But she has done far worse to other divorcees and trust me is not partial to the fairer sex-in fact its as if she wants to get even with all the girls who might have been the popular girls in her High School, the cheerleaders, the ones with handsome husbands with their eyes cast down and their lawyers paid up. But I KNOW FAR FAR WORSE-Judges who have taken bribes, who have engaged in cronyism, who have sent children back to abusive spouses. A Mother called me who had claimed that her husband was a sexual abuser-a pedophile and weary from Divorcees at that moment I chalked her up as a crazy until 4 months later when her 6 year old daughter had presented at the Emergency Room with an STD-I could have bashed my own head in...that I had not believed...that I had doubted...but Judges who don't listen are destroying our families. If only we could take the Judges to Court. Stay tuned for more Judges Gone Wild stories. As for my Judge she got what she deserved-her own miserable self and not a pair of pom poms in sight!